Dworin, 38, a mother of three and a former parenting magazine editor, blogs about the quirky journey of her Lutheran family: Dan, 39; Janine, 11; Ben, 8; Jillian, 5; and Harpo and Louis, circus-sized poodles, at www.thelutheran.org/blog/parenting.
Q: Although he believes in God, my husband rarely comes with us to church. He says it’s just not meaningful to him. What should we say when our kids ask: “Why do we have to go to church if Dad doesn’t?”
A: An ongoing conversation about faith is important for families. It helps kids learn that it’s OK to have respectful differences about hot-button issues. While it’s good for Dad to talk about his beliefs, it’s also critical for him to back you up.
He might say, “Your mom and I want you to make your own decisions when you grow up — especially about things as important as spirituality. That’s why we want you to experience Sunday worship and a faith community now. Without these experiences, you can’t make a decision about church in an intelligent way.”
This united front helps keep the situation in focus — and stops kids from feeling torn in their loyalties to their parents.
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