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10 ways to pray toward forgiveness

There are real processes for praying through your anger and hurt toward forgiving. Perhaps these are all part of one process.

There are real processes for praying through your anger and hurt toward forgiving. Perhaps these are all part of one process.

1. Be honest. This is perhaps the first rule of prayer. Express what you truly feel, holding nothing back. You may blurt out words full of pain or hate, frustration or disappointment. Sob your prayer. Yell your need.

2. Surrender. Offer everything to God — your pain, hope, enemies, loved ones, life. Without surrender, barriers remain, and you'll be unable to receive fully what God's grace so deeply wants to give.

3. Ask for grace to want to forgive before asking for the grace to forgive. You may need days, weeks, even months or years.

4. Ask God to help you see factors you've missed, ignored or misunderstood. Mentally picture the person standing with you in Christ's presence. Without words, look at who that person truly is, willing to see your foe differently than you have. Christ's presence may open your heart to see your antagonist's needs, shedding light on that person's actions. You may also see something you've denied in yourself.


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