You may need to go through this many times before it's possible to forgive. Expect setbacks. You know you have forgiven when you can recall the wrong without reliving the feelings. That's the best signal that your relationship with your past has changed.
Adapted from To Forgive is Human, Michael E. McCullough (IVP, 1997); and Forgiving the People You Love to Hate, Judy Logue (Liguori, 1997).
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