The Magazine of The Evangelical Lutheran Church in America


Think 'we,' not me

Are you a painter or a pointer in relationships? Find out by taking a quiz at www.thepowerofwe.com, the site of the Lenoir-Rhyne Center for Family and Community Relations.

Lenoir-Ryne College (Hickory, N.C.) psychology professor David Ludwig, the center's director, says painters sketch an entire picture as they work to the point. Pointers quickly hone in, stating the point up front. Both are fine ways to process information, but misunderstandings can erupt when one type doesn't understand how the other is speaking.

The new center is devoted to research and resources that help build healthy families and relationships. Its Web site offers quizzes and questionnaires on relationships and behavior. Example stories, suitable for group discussion, explore ways to recover the "we" in relationships and avoid the pitfalls of thinking of them as simply the joining of two individuals. The "we" is a relationship's interactive patterns of behavior that develop over time.

You can sign up for weekly e-mail updates of case studies and practical insights. A video Bible study based on Ludwig's principles also can be


Nancy Schlote

Nancy Schlote

Posted at 3:24 pm (U.S. Eastern) 6/4/2008

I am especially interested in the entire info on the Painter/Pointer

way of communicating.

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