We agree wholeheartedly with the premise of "What's fraying our commitments?" (June, page 16). The American "What's In It For Me?" (WIIFM) syndrome is completely contrary to Jesus' laying down his life for us before we could even respond. But we must strongly disagree with the suggestion in that article and the "Living together" story (page 22) that living together outside of marriage does not reflect this syndrome. The one example of a live-in couple proves the point. The man said, "There is nothing I could gain from marriage that I don't already have." If that's not a WIIFM question, what is? Marriage is always a risk; Christian marriage always involves a step of faith. Please publish articles in the future that will reassure couples that God acts in the lives of those who take that step of faith.
Stephen and Tanya Stadem Bemidji, Minn.
The rest of this article is only available to subscribers.
© 2014 Augsburg Fortress, Publishers